that is the way
Like and dislike are the disease of the mind. That's what Sosan says -- and he is one of the persons who knows: Like and dislike are the disease of the mind. Drop the disease, simply go into it, and great will be your experience and the realisation out of it.
A relationship always depends on two persons: it cannot depend only on one. The difficulties that you will create will be an unnecessary wastage of energy. You could have grown faster, much more could have happened if the resistance was dropped, because that resistance takes much energy, so rather than helping to transform you, you are hindering so it will take a longer period, unnecessarily.
Become conscious about those resistances and don't cooperate with them -- they will disappear; and it will continue to grow anywhere you are. It will happen -- nothing to be worried about. In strange places... you are just reading a newspaper and a sentence will hit you, reading a book and a sentence will jump upon you. Or seeing a movie or watching tv or just talking to a friend: he is just gossiping but something will hit you immediately and will transport you to strange spaces.
Tao will use many opportunities and many occasions to hit you and you will immediately see the hit. That happens especially after staying long in the mountains. When you come to the market-place again it happens because the body has to get adjusted to a different vibe. That is the difficulty with the mountains: they take you into another world, and when you come back to this world, it is a totally different world, of a very gross vibe... so it hurts, it hurts at the navel. Just accept when strong blows come and enjoy when they come and when they don't come, don't expect that they should come; never desire them. When they come, simply go with them, and when they disappear, let them disappear; don't cling. They come on their own, they go on their own. They are beyond our will -- those moments, those spaces, those blows are beyond our will; we cannot manipulate them. They are happenings; you cannot do them. You can't do a thing about them. Man feels utterly helpless for the first time when things from the beyond start happening... when one is simply a passive witness and utterly helpless. You cannot prevent, you cannot call forth, you cannot provoke, but that is a good experience because that's how one starts dropping the ego. One sees the futility of the ego. It is utterly meaningless, pointless, to carry the burden of it. That's when let-go happens. Then one lives according to the will of god or according to tao. One lives will-lessly. One simply lives not knowing why, not knowing even what, not knowing from where and to where, not knowing at all. Then one lives innocently, and that is the way....